Whenever someone comes to me with a problem they’re facing, I rub my hands together excitedly and think, “Oh, good. We have a problem!”
That might seem like a strange response. For most people, a problem is an unwanted event. It’s something to avoid, something to dread, and something to get rid of as quickly as possible.
But realistically, life is full of problems. There’s a problem around every corner. We all have problems. To think we could reach a problem-free life is just a straight out delusion.
So, the person who can admit they have a problem is actually doing quite well. That tells me they’re living in reality. They aren’t trying to hide an issue under the carpet and they’re willing to do something about it. It also tells me they’re probably ready to shift to a new level in life, because that’s exactly what problems are for.
We need problems and challenges. They keep us alive. They make life interesting, thrilling, and mysterious. They push us beyond suffocating boundaries, and they can pull out abilities and high level intelligence we didn’t know we had.
Having TOO MANY problems, however, is no fun at all. Feeling buried underneath a heap pile of issues can drive a person over the edge. When does that happen? That happens when we don’t accept, embrace, and work with our problems. They get buried with various forms of escapism (including hard work and health routines) and problems grow into something much worse.
“Do the difficult things while they are easy and do the great things while they are small.”Lao Tzu
Whenever I’m faced with a personal problem, I know it’s time to change something. That change can lead to a more authentic and deeply fulfilling life. The challenge is only the stepping stone to get there. In fact, the problem is also the SOLUTION. Pain is an excellent clarifier and motivator to BOLDLY live true to self.
“The cure for the pain is in the pain.”Rumi
When I want to change something in my life, I usually get out my notebooks, my tarot cards, I get comfortable, and I start brainstorming. First I write down my view of the problem. What do I not like about it? How is it causing me to suffer? Then I look at what I would prefer to experience instead. I dig deep to find out what I honestly prefer on a soul level so I don’t get caught in temporary fixes that don’t really do anything for me.
After I dive deep into the issue and swim through it, I can come up with a genuine solution that I’m excited to implement. Bam. Problem solved. I’m more aware of what I like and don’t like, and my life is all the better for it.